That’s what a group of over 300 Hollywood actresses and executives said in a bold
statement they put forth this past weekend, as the new year dinged in. At last, as countless victims of harassment, coercion, rape, and exploitation have spoken out and said, “Enough,” it feels like the solidarity of women and those who stand with us has brought us to the tipping point. Sexual harassment and the abuse of women will not be tolerated and time’s up on a lot of things we are no longer willing to endure.
Time’s up on men in powerful positions who make sexual demands that belong nowhere in the workplace, and which are never a woman’s job to meet.
Time’s up on a status quo that silences women and teaches us that we will not be protected and that men who bring in dollars will, regardless of how harmful their behavior.
Time’s up on protecting wealthy white women with social clout or power and ignoring women who lack social visibility, money and influence.
Time’s up on doing business-as-usual as long as the bottom line is met, even when business dealings mean the safety and wellbeing of over half of the workforce is put at risk.
Time’s up on the gender hegemony that makes it nearly impossible to challenge the roles we are expected to play and the positions of power and amount of money we have access to.
Time’s up on an entire industry of movie making built on the tired, limited, exclusionary trope of “a man on a journey,” or, “three bros.”
Time’s up on women artists being told that in order to amplify our voices and promote our art or music we must use our sexual appeal, or no one will be interested.
Time’s up on the figment of two genders that violently oppresses all of us if we do not fit ourselves neatly into one of two boxes.
As we usher in a new year with new norms and new approaches to sexuality, power, self-care, and the body and as we learn to speak up in a way we may never have before, let’s do some work to lay some meaningful groundwork about our sexuality and relationships so that we actually meet our own needs. The needs no one else will pay attention to or meet if we do not make them important. I know my sexuality and relationship life is absolutely essential to my full happiness, joy and expression.
I’m teaching my 8th Annual Manifesting Your Best Sexual Year Yet, New Year’s rituals & workshops starting next week: Online so you can attend anywhere in the world, and live in San Diego and Santa Barbara.
Here’s to a sexual year like we have never seen, both for each of us as individuals, and for the collective as we rise up together.
Thrilled & Inspired,