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Sexual Possibility After Divorce

I have made a bold declaration over the last several years, the years since my divorce. Divorce is a developmental stage of adulthood. Every adult who is in partnership will, at some point lose a partner to divorce or death and will have to find their way again. The question is: What will we create [...]

By |September 14th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

How White Supremacy and Misogyny Connect

This past weekend I was honored to go see a man whose music I grew up on and loved shine his heart-light on a crowd of adoring long-time fans. Neil Diamond is a gem, one of the greatest songwriters of our modern world, and a true gentleman. He ended his show as I predicted, encoring [...]

The Connection Between Sexuality & Spirituality

Often made complicated, the connection between spirituality and sexuality is so much more simple than we make it. Spirituality is our connection to our spirit, to the non-physical aspects of self. We grow our spirituality to grow as an eternal being, as a life-force beyond this physical plane. Our spirituality gives us a purpose for [...]

By |April 6th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Why Facebook Censors Sex Educators

Many sex educators, myself included, have found themselves unable to promote their workshops and offerings on Facebook's advertising platform because Facebook deems it to be explicit. In this Facebook Live session, we talk about the environment of censorship and repression that surrounds sexuality--the source of so much pain for many people and something we fight [...]

By |March 31st, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

A Thank You Note to President Obama, US Citizen

On a day when so many prepare to march in protest to the newly inaugurated President, I want to take a moment to celebrate the great man who has just left the office.  Let the focus today be on true legacy. What Obama did for women, LGBTQ folks, and acceptance of all who are different [...]

By |January 20th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What Social Justice, Pleasure & Consent Have in Common

Social Justice is sexy in the way that consent is sexy. When people are cared for, when their needs and desires are met, when they are invited to participate—whether it’s in democracy or sex—when we choose to work collaboratively, it’s hot. It’s attractive. It’s something people want to be a part of. It’s infectious. There [...]

By |January 9th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Intersectionality & What It Means to “Call In”

In the sexuality field we have been having rich conversations over the last many years about both intersectionality and what it means to “call someone in” rather than “call them out.” Too often when we have an issue with something someone has done or said we feel the need to “call them out” and tell [...]

By |December 19th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|0 Comments

What to do when sex dwindles in a longterm relationship

Anyone who has been in a relatively sober long-term relationship knows how challenging it can be to maintain a juicy sexual life over the long run. Your sex life may or may not have been exciting and fun in the beginning. Regardless of how exciting it was or was not, after the initial newness wears [...]

By |December 9th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

4 Common Reasons People Have Affairs (and How to Recover Afterward)

As a sexual empowerment coach, I get to hear a lot about people’s private sexual lives and the things they don’t usually talk about—not even to their partners. Many people have come out to me as having had affairs. I can often hear their voices shake a little in wanting to tell the truth, to [...]

By |September 7th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Now Ozzy: 6 Reasons We Need to Question Sex Addiction

Ozzy Osbourne is the latest in a string of people (almost always men) to diagnose themselves as “sex addicts.” As a professional sex educator who has spent 20 years advocating for healthy sexuality, I want to speak up and critique the idea of “sex addiction” as it’s commonly understood. In many ways, the concept of sex [...]