What’s a Sex Coach?

When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then, what is it that you actually do?”

By |January 11th, 2013|Sexual Growth, Sexual Politics & Culture|6 Comments

Why Elvis was a sexual pioneer

I always knew Elvis made huge contributions to music and film and that he accomplished a lot in his short life. Some of us are meant to be bright stars that burn out…he was one of those stars. He died at 42—my age now, and I was so struck by how much he did in his short life. He said, “Every dream I ever had came true.” What an amazing thing to feel about your life. We could all hope to feel that way.

By |November 30th, 2012|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Why Sexuality Matters in the 2012 Election

I have worked in the sexuality field for over 18 years. I came to the field in the darkness of the pre-Internet era, long before information about sexuality—and the knowledge that the sexuality field existed—was easily accessible online. Like many people, I grew up without any information or guidance around sexuality, and I went through [...]

By |November 24th, 2012|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Why Sexuality Matters in the 2012 Election

I have worked in the sexuality field for over 18 years. I came to the field in the darkness of the pre-Internet era, long before information about sexuality—and the knowledge that the sexuality field existed—was easily accessible online. Like many people, I grew up without any information or guidance around sexuality, and I went through [...]

By |November 9th, 2012|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

An Evolution of Position

Dear President Obama, I just watched your ABC interview where you came out, at last, in support of equal rights for all Americans. I mean, it’s a little ironic isn’t it? You being our first African-American President and all. I’m guessing you’ve experienced an obscene amount of discrimination during your life and certainly within your [...]

By |May 11th, 2012|Sexual Politics & Culture|2 Comments

The Eleven Sexual Rights You Should Know You Have

Sexual Rights are Fundamental and Universal Human Rights. Most of these rights are either currently being violated systemically in the U.S. or proposed amendments and bills will be in violation of them, should they pass.

By |March 22nd, 2012|Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

Do Americans Really Love Sex?

To require women to have an unnecessary penetrative ultrasound that has nothing to do with an abortion procedure is not merely ridiculous—it’s an abhorrent, dehumanizing way that our government thinks they can stick it to us when they don’t like our personal choices.

By |March 15th, 2012|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

The Pursuit of Sexual Freedom

if women’s self-determined use of birth control and same-sex couples’ marriages make it impossible for others to “preserve” their own personal sexual values, then those values are built on quicksand and should be re-evaluated.

By |February 10th, 2012|Queerly Speaking, Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

Why Men Don't Get Help For Sex

Everyone has work to do on their sexuality at some point in their lives. I mean EVERYONE. The majority of people, certainly the majority of men, will never do it. They will stay trapped with their egos demanding an impossible performance of them.

By |October 12th, 2011|Sexual Growth, Sexual Politics & Culture|3 Comments

Gay Marriage in NY! Now What?

New York State passed a law making marriage between two people of the same sex legal on Friday, June 24, just in time for New York’s biggest gay celebration of the year, and one of the biggest Pride events in the world. This has been a long road and finally we had a governor who took a strong stand for equality in New York and hopefully other states will take our lead and end their institutionalized apartheid. What does this really mean? Is it all that important? Why do the gay folks even want to be a part of an “institution” that the heterosexuals can’t seem to manage worth a darn?