Trailblazing for Liberation: Gender and the Election

On Wednesday, November 9 half of our country was stunned by the dreaded and realized result that Donald Trump was now our President-elect.   Every woman who ever stood for something felt the deep sting Secretary Clinton experienced, as she stood and faced us in her concession speech. It was a powerful moment. We know [...]

By |November 11th, 2016|Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Predatory Behavior All Women Know

Last week’s debate was disturbing on many levels. The way Donald Trump loomed menacingly over Hillary Clinton, using threatening body language and posturing chilled most women to the bone. Why? Because we all know what that predation feels like. Watching it on a presidential debate struck a deep chord in many women’s psyches that set [...]

By |October 21st, 2016|Advocacy, Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

Donald Trump, Sexual Agency & Entitlement to Women’s Bodies

This week inarguably marked one of the most inflammatory moments of any political campaign we’ve seen in this country since Watergate. Donald Trump's abhorrent, flippant comments about women and our bodies, and his braggadocio on-camera claims to his ability to sexually assault women because he is a “star” are the linchpin for his demise. His [...]

By |October 14th, 2016|Advocacy, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Why I’ve Had Over 1,000 Pelvic Exams

From 2001 to 2011, I had the distinctively unique position of teaching medical and nursing students, and occasionally residents, in every major medical institution in New York City how to give proper breast and pelvic exams. What made this work so unique was that I used my own body as a teaching tool to work [...]

Now Ozzy: 6 Reasons We Need to Question Sex Addiction

Ozzy Osbourne is the latest in a string of people (almost always men) to diagnose themselves as “sex addicts.” As a professional sex educator who has spent 20 years advocating for healthy sexuality, I want to speak up and critique the idea of “sex addiction” as it’s commonly understood. In many ways, the concept of sex [...]

The Greatest Sexual Lie Ever Told

I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is outside of us. Your sexuality is the core of who you are. It is the place where you came from, when there was a conception, [...]

Black Lives Matter but You’d Think They Don’t

I wrote an article in June 2015 about the police murders of Black men after the video of Eric Garner’s killing went viral… and here we are, a year later—just after the 4th of July, a holiday to celebrate the United States’ values of freedom and democracy. Yet, this country can’t even look itself in [...]

By |July 8th, 2016|Advocacy, Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

Why Women’s Spaces Matter

I’ve spent many years in women’s communities and I, myself, create spaces for women to come and do their sexual growth work with one another. These spaces are incredibly important for our own wellbeing and evolution. They are part of any revolution. I was recently teaching a women’s workshop in a “sex-positive” space that includes [...]

After Orlando, We Must Not Submit to Hopelessness and Fear

Like many of you, I’ve been rocked this week after my gay, lesbian, bisexual and queer family and allies were murdered in a horrendous act. This, on the heels of the Stanford rape case can make us feel hopeless. I have days when I am down and so saddened about the state of our world and [...]

By |June 17th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

What Will it Take to Change Rape Culture? – A Sex Educator’s Perspective

As I was teaching the first weekend of a 9-month journey around sexual agency, confidence, skills and empowerment to a group of women committed to being more powerful and sexually free this past weekend in New York, a woman who was brutally raped on the ground while unconscious behind a dumpster at a Stanford University fraternity house was [...]

By |June 10th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|1 Comment