It's time to get off the wall!

Live from the Carolina seashore, I'm talking to you today about the 5 confidence types and the highest expression of your own unique confidence style. Whether you crave the bold expression of the Power Player, the energy of the Warm Connector, the mystique of the Enigma, the humor of the Sassy Skeptic... watch this video [...]

By |March 28th, 2014|Sex and Money, Sexual Growth|5 Comments

The Truth About Confidence

The truth is that it’s very hard, if not impossible, to create the relationship of your dreams from a place of insecurity.

By |March 14th, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Sexual Growth|5 Comments

Confidence in the Boardroom and the Bedroom

It’s so common for people who are confident in the world to clam up or get sheepish about sex…

By |March 7th, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

5 Reasons Why Most People Lack Sexual Confidence

When I ask people what they most want for their sexual lives, they often say they really want more confidence.

By |February 28th, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Relationships, Sexual Growth|2 Comments

Is Your Avoidance Getting You What You Want?

Avoidance will generally mean that you will not get your needs met or feel seen and heard in a relationship, because it ultimately will require others to read your mind or figure out what is going on without you telling them.

By |January 31st, 2014|Damsel, Relationships, Sexual Growth|4 Comments

Sexual Self-Actualization

Self-actualizers feel themselves safe and cared for, not anxious, accepted, loved, loving, and alive--certainly living a fulfilling life.

By |January 3rd, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Sexual Growth|1 Comment

Sex, Love, and Belonging

Historically speaking, love and belonging are relatively new motivations for sex.

By |December 13th, 2013|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Empowerment

There are days when I feel angry by how pervasive sexual abuse is in this world. It is a symptom of a very big problem and the sheer prevalence of it shows just how far we have to go in healing our planet.

By |November 22nd, 2013|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

The Root of Men's Performance Anxiety

I think many men are carrying some deep shame about their sexuality that rarely gets discussed.

By |October 25th, 2013|Getting Unstuck, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

The Sexual Agency of Miley Cyrus

There is a difference between someone who is authentically self-possessed and one who is just creating an image to be viewed, almost like a cardboard doll.

By |October 4th, 2013|Damsel, Sexual Growth, Sexual Politics & Culture|3 Comments