Is love a feeling or an action? Love requires activities that create the conditions that make it possible for it to exist.
Travel is awesome and it’s one of my biggest values in life, but a fancy, romantic vacation won’t save your sex life.
There is a simultaneous slowing down and a quiet in a place of loss, and a quickening as life continues to move around and in you, urging you forward into your best self.
I speak to women all the time who are facing a major dilemma about how they’ve set up their lives: they have chosen a relationship that makes them feel safe, cared for, stable, and is a good place to raise their children
When there is a shared power that feels healthy and good for both partners in a relationship, you can then have more freedom to play with power sexually. Power is always part of sex.
When I ask people what they most want for their sexual lives, they often say they really want more confidence.
I think there are many potential “ones” and that we find the right one for the right time in our lives and place in our own growth process.
Avoidance will generally mean that you will not get your needs met or feel seen and heard in a relationship, because it ultimately will require others to read your mind or figure out what is going on without you telling them.
Historically speaking, love and belonging are relatively new motivations for sex.
At it’s core, self-esteem is about holding ourselves in esteem—liking oneself. Do you wake up each day and love being you? Do you support you?