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Planning Makes Sex Hot: How to Have the Sexy Year of Your Dreams in 2015

Somehow the idea that sex shouldn’t require effort has seeped into our psyches and that idea prevents us from taking the time or energy to make it hotter, better and more fulfilling.

By |January 9th, 2015|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

Sexual Agency in a Sex-Negative World

I believe sex-negativity refers to the cultural, social and psychological view that sexuality is by nature shameful, harmful, or vile, and therefore, that it should be repressed, policed or otherwise controlled.

By |December 12th, 2014|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

Racist Homicide Cannot Be Business As Usual #BlackLivesMatter #ItEndsToday

A country that routinely pardons a group of people who use their power over another group to kill them—and in that pardoning, excuses those murders—has serious problems.

By |December 9th, 2014|Pleasure & Desire|2 Comments

The importance of an opulent sex life

Amy Jo Goddard talks about the benefits of creating an opulent life full of beauty.

By |October 24th, 2014|Pleasure & Desire, Sex and Money, Video Blogs|1 Comment

Your Journey to Sexual Wholeness: Where to begin…

I know the fear that comes up. The “Can I really do this? Can I really have this? Is this real? Where do I start? What if I fail? What if I grow and then get rejected? What if other things in my life have to change?”

By |September 19th, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

Dancing Around Sexual Vulnerability

There are so many ways we run up against our vulnerability. We fight it because it feels tender and some might consider it “weak”—which couldn’t be further from the truth.

By |September 12th, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

Walking the Tightrope of Pleasure and Danger

In our sex-negative culture, doing the work that I do demands taking a stand for pleasure, for the freedom of erotic expression, and for accepting sexual vibrancy as part of our birthright.

By |August 1st, 2014|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

Flirting is Sacred

Flirting is giving energy, playful attention, and focus to something or someone. It can be a compliment, a tease, an energetic exchange of glances or sexy body language.

By |July 4th, 2014|Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

Me and Dan Savage Disagree about Desire

I listened to the show Dan Savage did a couple weeks ago where he addressed a 38-year-old virgin, desire, and romantic matches, and I want to take it from another angle.

Sexual Fantasies: What they mean and what to do about them?

Considering our country's Puritan roots and the relative recency of Cosmo's assertions, is it any surprise that the topic of fantasies is still a thorny one?

By |June 6th, 2014|Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments