Somehow the idea that sex shouldn’t require effort has seeped into our psyches and that idea prevents us from taking the time or energy to make it hotter, better and more fulfilling.
I believe sex-negativity refers to the cultural, social and psychological view that sexuality is by nature shameful, harmful, or vile, and therefore, that it should be repressed, policed or otherwise controlled.
A country that routinely pardons a group of people who use their power over another group to kill them—and in that pardoning, excuses those murders—has serious problems.
Amy Jo Goddard talks about the benefits of creating an opulent life full of beauty.
I know the fear that comes up. The “Can I really do this? Can I really have this? Is this real? Where do I start? What if I fail? What if I grow and then get rejected? What if other things in my life have to change?”
There are so many ways we run up against our vulnerability. We fight it because it feels tender and some might consider it “weak”—which couldn’t be further from the truth.
In our sex-negative culture, doing the work that I do demands taking a stand for pleasure, for the freedom of erotic expression, and for accepting sexual vibrancy as part of our birthright.
Flirting is giving energy, playful attention, and focus to something or someone. It can be a compliment, a tease, an energetic exchange of glances or sexy body language.
I listened to the show Dan Savage did a couple weeks ago where he addressed a 38-year-old virgin, desire, and romantic matches, and I want to take it from another angle.
Considering our country's Puritan roots and the relative recency of Cosmo's assertions, is it any surprise that the topic of fantasies is still a thorny one?