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4 Common Reasons People Have Affairs (and How to Recover Afterward)

As a sexual empowerment coach, I get to hear a lot about people’s private sexual lives and the things they don’t usually talk about—not even to their partners. Many people have come out to me as having had affairs. I can often hear their voices shake a little in wanting to tell the truth, to [...]

By |September 7th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Desire is the Excitement of Possibility

I constantly observe people I work with struggle about saying “yes” to what they want in their own lives, and how often people work against their own desires.  When life presents you with the next step, the next stage or thing, you can’t fight it, or you end up fighting against your own life. Your [...]

By |September 2nd, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

What Gets in the Way of Sexual Confidence?

I’ve spent years studying how confidence works and I’ve found it’s the thing everyone wants the most and yet people don’t know how to develop it and often don’t recognize their own unique confidence style.   Here’s the thing about confidence: it is not one size fits all.   After studying confidence for years and how it [...]

By |August 5th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

The Greatest Sexual Lie Ever Told

I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is outside of us. Your sexuality is the core of who you are. It is the place where you came from, when there was a conception, [...]

The Confusion of Desire

What does it mean to desire, to “own your wanting”? What gets in the way of owning it, of saying “yes, this is what I want and I won’t feel bad about my wanting”?  We tend to want based on the wants of those with whom we’ve grown up, of the desires we’ve seen modeled. If we [...]

Sexuality as your BFF

Sometimes you are in a relationship and you might start feeling insecure about it, and it’s easy to begin to project all sorts of stories and ideas onto the other person, fearing they don’t love you, fearing they will walk away, fearing they can’t meet your needs and that something about the relationship is inadequate. [...]

By |May 27th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

Prince: The Ultimate Sexual Role Model?

Prince was an icon in a category of one. In his death, we’ve lost one of the greatest musicians to ever live. Not only was he a master musician playing over 20 instruments proficiently, if not expertly, he was also a beautiful singer who knew how to use all of the rooms in his voice [...]

The Debate Over Female Desire and the New "Desire Drugs"

We all get fed a very specific story about sexuality in the media, in the way sexuality is taught in schools and universities, in the way medicine is practiced, in the way sex is talked about (and not talked about), and in how sex is portrayed in movies, television and in porn. That story is [...]

By |January 29th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Health|5 Comments

The 5 Reasons You’re Not Having The Best Sex Of Your Life

The 5 Reasons You're Not Having The Best Sex Of Your Life