19 08, 2016

The Magical Qualities Every Teacher Needs

By |August 19th, 2016|Education, Workshops|0 Comments

It seems that more than ever, we have incredible tension between taking time for ourselves - to be quiet and to connect inwardly and to contemplate - and to be out in the world with others, staying busy and doing things. In our personal growth, we need time alone and with ourselves, and time with [...]

12 08, 2016

Now Ozzy: 6 Reasons We Need to Question Sex Addiction

By |August 12th, 2016|Advocacy, Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|1 Comment

Ozzy Osbourne is the latest in a string of people (almost always men) to diagnose themselves as “sex addicts.” As a professional sex educator who has spent 20 years advocating for healthy sexuality, I want to speak up and critique the idea of “sex addiction” as it’s commonly understood. In many ways, the concept of sex [...]

5 08, 2016

What Gets in the Way of Sexual Confidence?

By |August 5th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

I’ve spent years studying how confidence works and I’ve found it’s the thing everyone wants the most and yet people don’t know how to develop it and often don’t recognize their own unique confidence style.   Here’s the thing about confidence: it is not one size fits all.   After studying confidence for years and how it [...]

22 07, 2016

The Greatest Sexual Lie Ever Told

By |July 22nd, 2016|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire, Politics, Relationships, Sexual Growth, Sexual Health, Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

I am continually amazed at the negativity people carry about their sexuality and at how much they will disconnect and defect from this part of themselves, as if it is outside of us. Your sexuality is the core of who you are. It is the place where you came from, when there was a conception, [...]

15 07, 2016

The Confusion of Desire

By |July 15th, 2016|Getting Unstuck, Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

What does it mean to desire, to “own your wanting”? What gets in the way of owning it, of saying “yes, this is what I want and I won’t feel bad about my wanting”?  We tend to want based on the wants of those with whom we’ve grown up, of the desires we’ve seen modeled. If we [...]

8 07, 2016

Black Lives Matter but You’d Think They Don’t

By |July 8th, 2016|Advocacy, Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|1 Comment

I wrote an article in June 2015 about the police murders of Black men after the video of Eric Garner’s killing went viral… and here we are, a year later—just after the 4th of July, a holiday to celebrate the United States’ values of freedom and democracy. Yet, this country can’t even look itself in [...]

1 07, 2016

Why Women’s Spaces Matter

By |July 1st, 2016|Queerly Speaking, Sexual Politics & Culture, Women's Spaces|0 Comments

I’ve spent many years in women’s communities and I, myself, create spaces for women to come and do their sexual growth work with one another. These spaces are incredibly important for our own wellbeing and evolution. They are part of any revolution.   I was recently teaching a women’s workshop in a “sex-positive” space that [...]

17 06, 2016

After Orlando, We Must Not Submit to Hopelessness and Fear

By |June 17th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Like many of you, I’ve been rocked this week after my gay, lesbian, bisexual and queer family and allies were murdered in a horrendous act. This, on the heels of the Stanford rape case can make us feel hopeless. I have days when I am down and so saddened about the state of our world and [...]

10 06, 2016

What Will it Take to Change Rape Culture? – A Sex Educator’s Perspective

By |June 10th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|1 Comment

As I was teaching the first weekend of a 9-month journey around sexual agency, confidence, skills and empowerment to a group of women committed to being more powerful and sexually free this past weekend in New York, a woman who was brutally raped on the ground while unconscious behind a dumpster at a Stanford University fraternity house was [...]