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19 12, 2016

Intersectionality & What It Means to “Call In”

By |December 19th, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|0 Comments

In the sexuality field we have been having rich conversations over the last many years about both intersectionality and what it means to “call someone in” rather than “call them out.” Too often when we have an issue with something someone has done or said we feel the need to “call them out” and tell [...]

9 12, 2016

What to do when sex dwindles in a longterm relationship

By |December 9th, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Anyone who has been in a relatively sober long-term relationship knows how challenging it can be to maintain a juicy sexual life over the long run. Your sex life may or may not have been exciting and fun in the beginning. Regardless of how exciting it was or was not, after the initial newness wears [...]

2 12, 2016

Sexuality Breathes Life into the Revolution

By |December 2nd, 2016|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

We like to categorize and compartmentalize nearly everything. It can help us manage the many parts of our life rather than feel lost in all of it and it can sometimes prevent some of the overwhelm that otherwise shows up. Yet life is interconnected, as are all the pieces of our lives. As I listened [...]

11 11, 2016

Trailblazing for Liberation: Gender and the Election

By |November 11th, 2016|Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

On Wednesday, November 9 half of our country was stunned by the dreaded and realized result that Donald Trump was now our President-elect.   Every woman who ever stood for something felt the deep sting Secretary Clinton experienced, as she stood and faced us in her concession speech. It was a powerful moment. We know [...]

21 10, 2016

Predatory Behavior All Women Know

By |October 21st, 2016|Advocacy, Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

Last week’s debate was disturbing on many levels. The way Donald Trump loomed menacingly over Hillary Clinton, using threatening body language and posturing chilled most women to the bone. Why? Because we all know what that predation feels like. Watching it on a presidential debate struck a deep chord in many women’s psyches that set [...]

14 10, 2016

Donald Trump, Sexual Agency & Entitlement to Women’s Bodies

By |October 14th, 2016|Advocacy, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

This week inarguably marked one of the most inflammatory moments of any political campaign we’ve seen in this country since Watergate. Donald Trump's abhorrent, flippant comments about women and our bodies, and his braggadocio on-camera claims to his ability to sexually assault women because he is a “star” are the linchpin for his demise. His [...]

7 10, 2016

Why I’ve Had Over 1,000 Pelvic Exams

By |October 7th, 2016|Advocacy, Education, Politics, PROJECTS, Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

From 2001 to 2011, I had the distinctively unique position of teaching medical and nursing students, and occasionally residents, in every major medical institution in New York City how to give proper breast and pelvic exams. What made this work so unique was that I used my own body as a teaching tool to work [...]

16 09, 2016

The Vulvalution Must Be Televised!

By |September 16th, 2016|Advocacy, Education, Sexual Health|0 Comments

Every time I teach a group of women about their sexual bodies, genitals and pleasure, I am reminded how revolutionary it is (still) to talk about our bodies in a sex-positive way because we just do not have the role modeling for it. If you do not partner with other people with vulvas, when do [...]

7 09, 2016

4 Common Reasons People Have Affairs (and How to Recover Afterward)

By |September 7th, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Relationships, Uncategorized|0 Comments

As a sexual empowerment coach, I get to hear a lot about people’s private sexual lives and the things they don’t usually talk about—not even to their partners. Many people have come out to me as having had affairs. I can often hear their voices shake a little in wanting to tell the truth, to [...]

2 09, 2016

Desire is the Excitement of Possibility

By |September 2nd, 2016|Pleasure & Desire, Sexual Growth|0 Comments

I constantly observe people I work with struggle about saying “yes” to what they want in their own lives, and how often people work against their own desires.  When life presents you with the next step, the next stage or thing, you can’t fight it, or you end up fighting against your own life. Your [...]