8 12, 2017

The Front Lines of the National Sex Ed Conference

By |December 8th, 2017|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

California is burning again and I am in Atlantic City at the National Sex Ed Conference. It is always a breath of fresh air to be around other people like myself who commit our days to having difficult conversations and helping people with their sexuality. I got to meet Dr. Joycelyn Elders today, the former [...]

1 12, 2017

Art, Music, and the Power of the Erotic

By |December 1st, 2017|Pleasure & Desire|0 Comments

I believe in the power of art and music to penetrate our psyches and to deeply and forever change us. Like sexuality, art can be treated as a “luxury,” as an addendum or a side-note to real life and real concerns. I pledge, rather, that art, music and sexuality are central to our journey as [...]

17 11, 2017

“What Do We Do With The Boys?”

By |November 17th, 2017|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

When I was in graduate school at NYU, I worked as a mentor and tutor as part of a community partnership at an alternative high school in Bushwick, Brooklyn (pre-gentrification, long before Bushwick was a cool place to live). Most of our 300 students had had trouble for one reason or another in the ginormous [...]

10 11, 2017

When It Comes to Sexual Harassment, Sex and Power Are Inextricably Linked

By |November 10th, 2017|Sexual Politics & Culture|0 Comments

As I engage with the current dialogue about sexual harassment, I continue to be struck by how people want to simplify it. This widespread harassment that is bubbling to the surface has many layers and many meanings and we do ourselves a disservice when we try to box it into being about one thing. Let’s [...]

13 10, 2017

Toxic Masculinity is Bubbling Over, but the Erotic Always Wins

By |October 13th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

We spent the weekend with 75 women committed to connecting to and healing their sexual selves, and playing in an erotic playground at Fire Woman Retreat. It was a weekend filled with light, inspiration and beauty. When we came out of it, we heard that there had been another mass shooting in Las Vegas, a [...]

14 09, 2017

Sexual Possibility After Divorce

By |September 14th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

I have made a bold declaration over the last several years, the years since my divorce. Divorce is a developmental stage of adulthood. Every adult who is in partnership will, at some point lose a partner to divorce or death and will have to find their way again. The question is: What will we create [...]

18 08, 2017

How White Supremacy and Misogyny Connect

By |August 18th, 2017|Politics, Sexual Politics & Culture, Uncategorized|0 Comments

This past weekend I was honored to go see a man whose music I grew up on and loved shine his heart-light on a crowd of adoring long-time fans. Neil Diamond is a gem, one of the greatest songwriters of our modern world, and a true gentleman. He ended his show as I predicted, encoring [...]

23 06, 2017

“Is it Possible to Drop Our Identities And Just Be Human?”

By |June 23rd, 2017|Queerly Speaking, Sexual Politics & Culture, Women's Spaces|0 Comments

I was listening to the Dalai Lama talk this morning in San Diego about how much happier and less lonely we’d be if we saw ourselves as one human family and stopped disconnecting and separating ourselves from one another with “I’m this” and “You’re that.” At Los Angeles Pride last weekend Adam Lambert repeated a [...]

6 04, 2017

The Connection Between Sexuality & Spirituality

By |April 6th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Often made complicated, the connection between spirituality and sexuality is so much more simple than we make it. Spirituality is our connection to our spirit, to the non-physical aspects of self. We grow our spirituality to grow as an eternal being, as a life-force beyond this physical plane. Our spirituality gives us a purpose for [...]

31 03, 2017

Why Facebook Censors Sex Educators

By |March 31st, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Many sex educators, myself included, have found themselves unable to promote their workshops and offerings on Facebook's advertising platform because Facebook deems it to be explicit. In this Facebook Live session, we talk about the environment of censorship and repression that surrounds sexuality--the source of so much pain for many people and something we fight [...]