When Your Sexual Energy is Blocked

We all have a bowl inside us, a well, a deep gorge of energy that is our core sexual energy. For many people, that energy is buried deep, smothered, depleted, seemingly inaccessible. For others, it is alive, vibrant, flowing and rich. No matter the state of your sexual well, you’ve got one.

If you feel depleted and disconnected from your sexual energy or even your core vibrant life force (which I believe is the same thing) then your well might need some maintenance.

What are you creating?

Every human being was put on earth to create something. Only you know what your true calling for creation is. Some of us are here to invent, to make art, to create communities, or even large social movements. Some are here to make film, music, policy, food, families. Maybe you are here to make people smile and help them love each other a little bit more.

But make no mistake: we are all creative by nature. You have a desire in you to create something…your tools might vary from those of others, but the desire comes from the same force: Life. Life is meant to reproduce and create more of itself. That’s why our sexuality is so linked to our core life force. Without this magnificent sexual energy, how would we create the things we are meant to create?

Your sexuality can create a new life with one single cell you share with someone else. Magic! But that’s only one way you use your sexuality to create. You need that core energetic force to locomote in your life, to thrive in your relationships and to express the full desire and life purpose within you.

So many people come to me because they feel that energy is dull, dimmed, or has all but blown out! As my colleague Pamela Madsen will tell you, “all you need is an ember.”

There are a lot of reasons why that core energy gets dull, and there are equal amounts of ways to blow on your ember and spark it. When I’m feeling depleted energetically, I know lying around watching online episodes of my favorite series is not the way to build it. Often, people tend to do the thing that will keep them from what they want, rather than to get closer to it. We each have a saboteur that can prevent us from growing or healing or having our desires met. Watch that part of yourself to see how it gets crafty in its ways.

So how do you reconnect to your dim sexual energy? Physicality is a great way to move stagnant energy. Exercise, movement, stretching, breathing and bringing physical sensation to your sexual chakra are great ways to begin. You can bring attention to your sexual well/chakra/center either through massage or providing sensation or stimulation, by having orgasms, or through specific exercises that will open up your hips and, deepen your well, so to speak. I love to work with people on how to create a practice of opening to their sexual energy because energy builds energy. If you work on building your physical energy, it will impact your emotional energy, your desire energy, your intellectual energy, and your spiritual connectedness. The more you bring attention to something, the more you can develop it. Sex energy is like that. Keep ignoring it and that spark will turn to embers and nearly burn out, but it’s there. A little attention will go a long way in shifting your low energy.

How do you recharge?

When people step into focusing on their sexual self, all sorts of things open up. I’ve witnessed people who have created everything from new relationships, better orgasms and pleasure, more money, greater satisfaction in career or new creative work/art out of conscious attention to sexuality and building sexual energy   

I’m working with people who are ready for this major life call in 2015. From next week’s complimentary class “Reignite Your exual Spark” to new virtual coaching programWoman on Fire, the opportunities are right here if you are willing to say “yes” to your own energy and desire for more. And whether it’s with me or not, I encourage you to do something meaningful to bring attention and needed shifts to your core sexual energy in 2015.

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